A Gift from My Parents

The First Week of Advent

Dear Readers,

During Advent, I thought you might enjoy hearing about the best gift that I ever received from my parents.  [In this blog, I’ve previously written about and included photographs of my parents.  See The Heroes Among Us:  First in a Series.]

I come from a long line of sacred choral music singers [from Winston-Salem, NC]:  My grandfather, R. E. Blair, was a professional choir member at the downtown Episcopal Church.  My great-grandfather, D. I. Long, was the Choir Master at a Reformed Church, where most of his [eight] adult children sang in the choir, including my grandmother, Hope Susan Long Blair [see The Heroes Among Us:  Second in a Series.]

My father & mother met at Guilford College, NC, while both were in the choir, where they sang a wide range of sacred choral music, under the expert direction of Dr. Ezra Weiss.  For the next three decades, the years they invested in various church choirs provided for my parents some of their richest memories and most lasting friendships.

Once every Advent, my parents performed in Handel’s Messiah Oratorio and we four Blair children attended every performance.  As a young child, I was probably motivated out of a sense of familial duty more than a love of sacred choral music.  However, over the years, I learned to thoroughly enjoy every aspect of the performance:  the libretto, the music, the soloists, the conductor, the instruments, the pipe organ, the candlelight in the church sanctuary, the Advent Chrismon decorations on the evergreen tree — all of it combined to offer a sense of the sublime and majestic!

I suppose a happy mixture of “nature and nurture” bestowed upon me a love of sacred choral music, an ear to appreciate it, and a voice to sing it.  As an adolescent, I enjoyed singing in the church youth choir and in the school choir.  [In the 60’s, you may remember, we sang sacred music in secular schools.]

Now, fast-forward from the 1960’s to 35-40 years later, when Stephen and I began to study theology. It was then that I realized that everything that I knew about theology, up to that point, I had learned from the libretto of Handel’s Messiah Oratorio:  the grand redemption narrative, the prophecies, the integration of the Old and New Testaments, the historical events of the Triune God:  the Creation, Incarnation, Crucifixion, Resurrection, and the Second Coming.

My parents introduced me to Handel’s Messiah Oratorio when I was a child and, over the years, both the music and words shaped and formed my young life, in a gradual inclination of my “heart, mind, soul, and strength” toward knowing and loving the Triune God.

So, every Advent, in my parents’ memory, and for my own enjoyment, I will listen to the complete CD of Messiah and I will participate in the community-wide Messiah Sing.  I may silently weep during part of the Messiah Sing, as I think about my parents.  However, I will be in sympathetic company.  At the 2005 Messiah Sing, the alto sitting next to me whispered, “I may weep a little because I lost my mother this past year.”  I squeezed her hand and whispered, “Me, too.” 

My parents are both gone but their gift to me will continue to benefit me for many years, as I continue to listen, to sing, to study, and to mine the riches and depths of the theology of Messiah!  What a gift!

One of the other “best gifts” I ever received was in 2009, when my daughter, Haley, flew home from Texas, for a three-day visit, with the express purpose of singing with me in the Messiah Sing!  And, so, the best gift from my parents extends to the next generation.  Glory to God!

Coram Deo,


 Resources for Handel’s Oratorio, Messiah:

  • Book:  Hallelujah: The Bible and Handel’s Messiah, by Carol Bechtel Reynolds, A Resource Book published by the Kerygma Program, 1995.
  • BookHandel’s Messiah Family Advent Reader [The], by Donna W. Payne and Fran Lenzo, Moody Press, 1999.
  • BookMessiah:  The Gospel According to Handel’s Oratorio, by Roger Bullard, Eerdman’s, 1993.
  • CD:  Do It Yourself Messiah CD [The]:  [A choral tutor for your voice:  Order Soprano, Alto, Tenor, or Bass].
  • CDHandel’s Messiah, Robert Shaw, Atlanta Symphony Orchestra & Chamber Chorus, 1984, Telarc, CD-80093.
  • ScoreMessiah Oratorio [Complete] by G. F. Handel, Score, G. Schirmer’s Edition.
  • WebsiteMessiah Sing!  www.tallahasseemusicguild.com.


Filed under Advent, Messiah Oratorio by Handel, theology and doxology

6 responses to “A Gift from My Parents

  1. Meredith Fishback

    Advent, what a dear time of worship. I read your words and it brought back so many memories of church services with my parents, my children, home-made wreaths with crooked candles, and then Christmas Eve candle-light services followed by a Jesus cake baked with my kids.
    Thank you for using your energy to fill us with hope through scripture and personal stories. You amaze me. Last night Charlie, Jaye and I were talking about how God can use anybody at any time of their lives, in any way He chooses. How wonderfully He is using you!
    I shall persevere and pray He will use me as He wishes!
    Love to you and Steve.

    • margopayne

      Dear Meredith,

      How delightful to read your encouraging comment on this blog. Among my friends, you, with your love of music, Advent, and liturgy, would be one of those who share my deep appreciation of the Messiah Oratorio, the Faith Presbyterian Church Sanctuary, and my memories of Christmas Eve Candlelight Worship Services. By the way, the Messiah Sing is always the second Tuesday of each December and I would so love to see your radiant countenance there!

      Coram Deo,

  2. Margo,
    You are in my thoughts and prayers today as you do your round of chemo. God bless you and your family.

  3. Cliff Fenlason

    Merry CHRISTmas, Margo! …and to Steve too! I’m thinking of you two, hoping that your Christmas tomorrow will be fun and meaningful. I’ll bet that you were at a Christmas eve service tonight too, huh? We’re having a quiet Christmas with Clay here and a planned late Christmas on the 27th with the WA half of our family. “Best” to you!

    • margopayne

      Dear Cliff,

      Thank you for your Christmas greeting! By now, you know [from my blog] that I was ill during the week of Christmas and I was not able to attend the Christmas Eve or Christmas Day Worship but I am looking forward to next year! I was thankful that Daniel, Haley & Benjamin arrived safely home to Tallahassee and then home again to Waco. Being able to see them [even without hugging] was “good medicine.” Love to you and Judy!

      Coram Deo,

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