Camellia
Dear Readers,
[Note: This is a re-post. Monday December 10, 2012 will mark the one-year anniversary of the death of my friend, Cheryl. I am providing this link on Face Book, to honor the memory of Cheryl.]
January 10, 2011
Exactly one month ago, my friend, Cheryl, died — on the same morning that the first of the Camellias bloomed in our garden. Since it is difficult for me to find the words to express what her friendship meant to me, I will borrow from the language of flowers:
The Camellia is The Winter Rose but I first met Cheryl in the summer, only six months ago. I remember my first impression: she was elegant and lovely yet fragile and delicate.
We refer to the Camellia, poetically, as the rose without thorns. Yet, I soon learned that Cheryl’s life did contain thorns: when her mother died of breast cancer, Cheryl was only thirteen years of age. When I met her, Cheryl was battling breast cancer for the third time, within a span of ten years.
In spite of her affliction, she was spirited and vivacious. She and her husband, Doug, downplayed the seriousness of Cheryl’s health challenges: They were brave, courageous, and optimistic.
She possessed a beauty borne of years of suffering. The natural tendency, in suffering, is to isolate oneself. Instead, over the decades, she invested herself in nurturing strong relationships with family and friends.
In the autumn, as Cheryl’s health declined, the families of both Doug and Cheryl welcomed me into their closely knit circle. They taught me how an extended family cares for each other, during the deepest and darkest season of affliction.
Doug was her protector: She depended upon him and he was entirely trustworthy. He arranged for her comfort and companionship, during the hours that he was at the university. He was unfailingly energetic, optimistic, and gracious to everyone, in spite of struggling with the harrowing thought of losing his wife.
Their commitment to marriage [almost 31 years] and to each other was strong, pure, and everlasting.
Cheryl’s life demonstrated the symmetry of integrity: She knew what she believed and she lived out what she believed. She was consistent in both character and virtue. Her commitment to both Christian faith and practice was unwavering.
Elegant and beautiful yet fragile and delicate; loving and trusting her husband and family; generously giving herself in friendship and service to others; trusting in the Holy Trinity for her life on earth and for her eternal future: Those were the enduring qualities of my friend, Cheryl.
On this winter day, glancing out my window, I can see our Camellia bushes: The red and pink blooms offer a welcome burst of color in the cold, dreary, rainy landscape. As I pause to admire the perfect blooms, I remember the gentle and light fragrance of Cheryl’s life. She loved the Holy Trinity “with all [of her] heart, soul, mind, and strength.” It was this self-emptying love for God and for others that drew family and friends to her. Even when her own life was fading, she was concerned for the welfare of those around her.
Cheryl loved beautiful, sacred music, as do I, and she was gifted with a superb singing voice. Every Sunday morning, at St. Peter’s Anglican Church, the voices of both the congregation and the choir combine to sing the ancient hymns of worship. As we lift our voices with “all the company of heaven,” I can imagine the lovely sound of Cheryl’s clear and soaring voice, a reflection of the depth and beauty of a life lived well, to the glory of God.
“ . . . with Angels and Archangels, and with all the company of heaven, we laud and magnify thy glorious Name, evermore praising thee, and saying,
Holy, holy, holy, Lord God of hosts:
Heaven and earth are full of thy glory.
Glory be to thee, O Lord Most High!”
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“You only are immortal, the creator and maker of mankind; and we are mortal, formed of the earth, and to earth shall we return. For so did you ordain when you created me, saying, ‘You are dust, and to dust you shall return.’
All of us go down to the dust; yet even at the grave we make our song: Alleluia, alleluia, alleluia!”
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“Grant her your peace; let Light Perpetual shine on her; and, in your loving wisdom and almighty power, work in her the good purpose of your perfect will; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.”
“Give rest, O Christ, to your servant, Cheryl, with your saints, where sorrow and pain are no more, neither sighing, but life everlasting. Amen.”
Coram Deo,
Margot
[Written by Margot Blair Payne, January 10, 2012].
[Quotes are from the Book of Common Prayer.]
In her book, “A Victorian Flower Dictionary,” Mandy Kirby notes that the Camellia is “the Empress of Winter,” bringing lightness and gaiety to a dark time of year.
“It was the belle of winter flowers, gracing dinner parties, balls and concert rooms,” Kirby writes, and soon came to represent “a simple expression of feminine beauty and love.”
The Camellia:
The Empress of Winter
The Belle of Winter
The Rose Without Thorns
Qualities: Longevity, Evergreen, Symmetry
Feminine Qualities: Elegance, Loveliness, Beauty, Lightness, Gaiety, Trust
Masculine Qualities: Protection, Excellence, Steadfastness, Trustworthiness
Qualities of Love: Strong, Pure, Everlasting
Other: Admiration, Perfection, Gratitude
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Margot’s Corner 
Film Review: “War Horse”
I assure you that I have not yet read any commentaries regarding the film, War Horse. Therefore, I will share with you my unalloyed and brief review: This film contains a clash of contrasting images: violent and horrific vs. nostalgic and sentimental.
The film scenes re-creating World War I are horrible, violent, and bloody. The images and sounds assault and torment us [the viewers] as the film confronts us with the horrors of man’s inhumanity to man.
This film also explores relationships between: villagers, neighbors, friends, comrades, humans and animals, grandparents and grandchildren, parents and children, and husbands and wives.
I remember when I first watched Schindler’s List, which Stephen Speilberg brought from print to film. I said at the time, “This is a film we need to view. If brave, courageous people had to live — and suffer and die — through this horror, the very least we can do is to watch it, no matter how difficult.”
We must be repeatedly reminded, in the most brutal way possible, if necessary, of the horrors of war and genocide.
It is likely that film reviewers will sneer at the nostalgia and sentimentality of the “schmaltzy” relationship scenes. I disagree with them.
The ancient Greek philosophers knew that the intellect must “reign in” the emotions, as a rider “reigns in” a horse. We must, therefore, train our emotions to respond appropriately to whatever the intellect first determines to be virtuous and true.
This film encourages us to indulge in the “relationship scenes,” in order to remind us of the hope that, one day, the created order will be made right. The Hebrew Scriptures declare: “But let justice roll down like waters, and righteousness like an ever-flowing stream.” [Amos 5.24]
We cannot live without the hope that the created order will one day be restored: wars between nations will cease, human dignity will be restored, human life will be protected and valued, and humans will be reconciled with God and with one another.
The “schmaltzy scenes” of the film serve not to merely manipulate our emotions. Rather, those scenes represent a “keyhole” preview into a world of the future, when justice and righteousness will reign forever.
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